Wish You Had More Self-Control? You Can.

?Anybody who’s listening right now and you feel like you are absolutely stuck and you’re suffering day in and day out, getting the exact same results, feeling the exact same way, thinking the exact same thoughts. I want you to make a decision right now that what you’re doing is not working. You do not need to go on one more moment.
thinking, feeling, behaving, and getting these same results. So that’s where it starts. Mm-hmm. . And I wanna just also come alongside of you and, and when you believe that you’ve just made a decision, notice how that belief makes you feel right there. You have gained a glimmer of control. You made that decision.
Welcome to the Imperfectly Empowered Podcast with DIY Healthy Lifestyle Blogger Ahna, former empowering you to transform your life one imperfect day at a time. Hello, and welcome back to another episode of the Imperfectly Empowered Podcast. I’m your host, Ahna Fulmer. Today we have Tracy Pleschourt on the show.
Tracy is the founder of Self. You a health coaching curriculum that empowers men and women to develop their self-control in order to overcome excess and live holistically well. It is such a cool concept, and I’m excited to bring her here to share her expertise on managing your thoughts, feelings, and actions around weight loss in order to thrive.
Welcome Health Coach, Tracy. Hey. Hello. Hi. Can you hear me okay? I can hear you just. Great. Welcome. Thank you. Thanks for having me. Absolutely. This is so fun. I loved, as I was diving into your stuff, I really enjoyed the twist. I feel like you’re unique in your space, in that you’re really targeting the concept of self-control.
Cuz it’s like fat fats become the new F word. You know, a self-control is like another one of those words that everyone’s like, ah, let’s make it sound a lot prettier. Right. Yeah. But at the end of the day, that’s really, that’s really it. I, I totally agree. I totally agree, and it seems to really resonate with my clients.
I do a group coaching call every Wednesday, and I have like a formula where we can very visually, See, I mean, I have it like on the big boards next to me that I, I work, oh yes. I work out their thoughts like as if it was a math problem so that they can very clearly see. And so when we get to like, what kind of feeling is it that you want to be generating?
Yeah. Every one of my clients now is like control. Mm-hmm. And so it feels like a God thing because it has all just totally come together, and my clients are getting so much success with recognizing how they can generate that from within. There’s a, yeah. Actions of course, that you have to do that lead to that, but without that, , you’re left feeling frustrated.
Overwhelmed, yeah. Out of control and anxious. Yeah. Yeah. Anxious. Yeah. And that’s what’s leading to all these results. So I appreciate you saying that because often I wonder if I’m able to effectively get that point across that and control and self-control are two different things, you know? So that’s also something worth mentioning.
So anyhow, thank you. No, it’s so true. And I think even before we dive into your story and expertise, I think it’s a great thing to point out what you just said, to open it up, that self-control is literally the ability to control you. Yeah. Your actions, your thoughts, the way you respond to something.
Control is where, especially as women, we really get into trouble because now that concept is, well, we wanna control everything else. Exactly circumstances and we can’t. But when you start with yourself, I think it is amazing how it actually becomes a little easier. Yes. To then let go of control as we develop self-control.
It’s an interesting, yeah, and I kind of think of control as an action and I think of self-control as a feeling. Mm. So when we’re doing my math mm-hmm. , there’s a very clear distinction where control, trying to be really grippy and trying to control circumstances leads to negative results. But when you feel self-control, That leads to the results that you actually want.
Whether that’s a goal, whether that’s solving a problem. So yeah, they’re very, very different. I love it. I’m excited to dive into this and we will, you know, hang in there. We’ll talk about the math, the mind math. I love this. We, one of the things that you mentioned, on your site in a lot of different places.
You talk about this idea of getting to the root cause, this concept of an unmanaged brain, which is exactly what you’re talking about. Yeah. Yeah. And learning how to intentionally manage what you think, how you feel, and then ultimately how you respond. Exactly. You mentioned in. Story, the student kind of became the teacher.
Share a little bit of your own journey and how you got to this place and the realization of, oh, self-control is really what it comes down to. Tell us a little bit about that. . Yeah, so I started my career in the advertising world and it was a phenomenal place to kind of cut my teeth and really understand myself better.
Mm-hmm. and what I recognized was, There was a lot of stress. There was a lot of frustration. There was a lot of overwhelm. I was operating from thoughts like, I’m not doing it right. I should be further. I need to be doing this. And those kind of thoughts were making me feel out of control. I felt ill-equipped, I felt like a.
Fraud. Like, you know, I was getting the promotions and I was climbing the ladder and I’m thinking, who the hell am I to be at this level? Yeah. And so it was through experience that I did finally understand that it’s the way I’m. Feeling, that’s the root cause. That’s what’s driving all of my actions that eventually lead to the experiences, the results that I am having.
And so it was really connecting those dots and it started 20 years ago. And had a better understanding of what it meant to manage my mind. Of course, I would’ve gotten different results, but it absolutely would not have led me to where I’m at today with this ability to teach so many people this self-control operating system, and it’s so simple.
and that even gets in our way because a lot of us have thoughts about simple. We think a big change, especially a life change, should be hard. Mm-hmm. . And so simple is like, ah, it puts on the brakes, but it really is simple and it’s all within you. You just need to know how to tap into it. So, , I do think of myself as the student.
I have tons of experience of getting results that I didn’t want, and now operating with this new way of managing my mind, I get a lot of results that I do want. And so now I go on to teach that and I realize that, you know, on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the very tippy, tippy top that all of us are really wanting to.
Become is self-actualized. You know, it’s really like living out your purpose. And so it has become very clear to me. That’s what I’m doing. I have this ability to teach these concepts to people who really are hungry for them and. They too wanna become self-actualized. They too want to impact other people’s lives and live out their purpose.
So I also have a platform for that. Like I have a program now called Student Teacher. Mm-hmm. . And so I teach them how to teach what it is that they’ve learned and teach other people how to apply it, not just gain all this insight, like literally how do you apply it in your life. Yeah. Because that’s hugely, hugely important.
Yeah. You talked a little bit about the thoughts that were resulting in the struggle that you experienced early on. Talk a little bit about what it was that you were feeling because I, I think sometimes part of our struggle is even identifying what we’re feeling. It’s like we don’t see the results we want.
We’re frustrated, we feel. , we feel like there’s probably more, and yet we can’t even really verbalize what we’re feeling that is resulting in those thoughts, . Yeah. So just talk to me a little bit about taking sort of a rewind and digging into, uh, give examples of, you know, how were you feeling and then how were you seeing that translate negatively?
Yeah. Well, so if I recognized a feeling of, you know, maybe being a fraud or ill-equipped or I think, and an example of that, would that be like, for example, you’re seeing somebody else in a position like yours. You have these leadership opportunities and you’re getting these promotions. You see somebody else in a similar position, and is that what’s causing you to have this sense?
well, she’s got it all together. I don’t, I shouldn’t be here. Like expand a little bit on that sense of what’s causing that. Yeah. So what is very inherent within all of us is this like narrative. It comes from what I call your primitive brain, but it’s a very judgemental narrative. So it’s constantly judging you, judging other people and judging circumstances.
And so without understanding, , that is a function of your primitive brain, and it really is. can be used as like this alarm or this alert that there’s work to be done. Like you can clean that thought up and really feel different. Without that awareness, then you’re just feeling very judgmental about yourself, about your coworkers, and about the place that you’re working or the project that you’re working on, and you then create like this saboteur type result.
So yeah, I was qualifi. , but I was thinking that I wasn’t, I’m watching, I’m looking at the lives through the lens of an outsider. Obviously I have no idea what other people, you know, are thinking or feeling. Yeah. Or doing. I’m looking through this lens of an outsider going, yeah, they have it all together and I know differently about myself.
Mm-hmm. , and now I’ve just layered on shame on top of that. So now it’s this compounded emotion that I’m feeling like I have to keep to myself, which just compounds this kind of, I think that a lot of executives deal with imposter syndrome, and that’s why is because that judgment that is very inherent within us that we all have is really hijacking you.
Mm-hmm. . And so the antidote to. is to A, understand that it’s a normal function of your primitive brain. B, work on being more aware of when that shows up and use it as a, like a trigger to go in there and start cleaning up those thoughts. . Otherwise, what’s gonna unfold is results that you don’t like. I’m not saying that you can’t feel like an imposter or feel sure, you know, shame and not create achievements.
You can. You absolutely can. , but the course, they might be miserable . Exactly. What’s the winner look like? Yeah. Yeah. So that’s why I would say big picture, you know, we can all relate to people who we think have it all. Mm-hmm. , yet they’re depressed, yet they’re suicidal. Right. They have high achievements by most people’s standards.
but what’s the journey look like? What does the day in day out emotional state of that person, right? Right. So we need to be way more aware of like, how do we want to be achieving, how do we want to be living our life? Like what are the emotions that we want to drive our actions? Mm-hmm. . And that choice is very, You do have a choice and, but you have to understand how to tap in to those inherent like opportunities within you.
Yeah, that looks like asking yourself high quality questions. I call it self coaching, but it’s asking yourself high quality questions. To your point, what is it that I’m feeling right now in this very moment? Mm-hmm. , why am I feeling that way? That’s gonna reveal the belief or the thought. Yeah. That you’re, it’s emotional intelligence really.
You’re tapping into emotional intelligence, which is something absolutely people have no clue how to do, or even what it is to result in emotional health, which then has a direct correlation, as you’re saying, on your mental health, which then of course affects your behavior. Yeah. And all of your. All of your results.
All and then Exactly. And exactly like what you said, then how you experience the quality of that life, . Exactly. You might be successful, but if you’re miserable, then what point? Yeah. What are you doing? Right, exactly right. So I’d love to teach that, that concept to younger people because. Not that I feel like I could have achieved more or I regret the path that I’m on.
I just really appreciate optimizing life at a younger age and Absolutely. Yeah. And what I really like kind of start to get bent over . It’s like I wish that this was part of the curriculum in formal education. Oh, I feel like this is a huge emotional intelligence. Yeah. Behavioral health, all of these concepts 100%.
Like we’re learning trigonometry and yet kids have no idea how to regulate their feelings. Like Exactly. Amen. Oh, a hundred percent. Yes. Or do their taxes. Can we talk about that for a second? Right. Look me like way too old, till I figured out what the heck taxes look like. Yeah, right. Well anyways, . 100%. We are gonna take a quick break, but when we come back, stay tuned.
We’re gonna play a speed round of this or that with Tracy. Get to know her a little bit better, and then we are going to dive into her expert advice. We’re gonna unpack the mind math, and then specifically we’re gonna dive into one area of health. We’re gonna talk about this. Physical health and how you can start to correlate something as weight loss, for example, and how what you think affects the results that you want.
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Two options, no stress. Whatever comes to mind first. Would you rather chocolate or vanilla? Chocolate. Where’s the best chocolate you’ve ever had? Are you like a big chocolate girl or just in general? You would. It’s always chocolate with something, so I’m a huge chocolate. Butter. Chocolate and caramel, like chocolate nugget.
Like, so yeah, I, I love chocolate, but I think I especially love it like mixed with some of my other favorite ingredients. . Yeah, I totally get that. That’s me with baked goods, like I like pie, but if there’s no vanilla ice cream to put on top, I’m like, Yeah, right. . I need something else with it. Would you rather be a ninja or a pirate?
Oh, ninja, for sure. Yeah. I like their clean, like concise, very decisive. Yeah. Like actions, so yeah. Yeah. I, that’s still one of my, I say this every time. It’s on my to-do list. I would love to do like Kra maga, or mm-hmm. jujitsu or something. I think it’d be so fun. Yeah. Hopefully I won’t ever need to use it, but it’d be nice to know.
Right. Well on the same vein of sweets, candy or baked goods, , well baked goods. But I also, I, you know, I have done a lot of studying on metabolic science, so I know what sugar and flour does to you. Metabolically so hard to have a good baked good without sugar and flour. That’s amen. That, yes, I won’t even try a baked good without sugar or flour.
Yeah. Would you rather run in the woods or lift in the gym? Run in the. Yeah, for sure. I love, I love getting out into nature. Are you a runner? I was at one time in my life. Mm-hmm. , I did. A lot of like five Ks and a lot of half marathon, but my knees did not love that. So now I walk, yeah. I walk an hour every single day.
Yeah. And I love that. And you know, I think that there’s so many benefits to just walking as, as long as you Absolutely. You know, mindful of getting your heart rate up and things like that. Yeah. So, yeah, I loved the value add that running gave me. I ha I always would get that runner’s high and I loved it.
So I, I do miss that, but I don’t miss the achy joints. Yeah. Well, I think you just gave a perfect example of avoiding the all or nothing mentality. Just, I hear this so often, people who ran for years, now they can’t anymore, and it’s just like they’ve given everything speed, walk. get outside. It is hard when you loved running and then you can’t.
I get that. Yeah. But follow Tracy’s example, . So we talked a little bit about this before the break, but talk to us about this self-control operating system. This concept of mind math. Ultimately how you need to tap into what you think about something or feel about something. And you know, for everyone listening and watching, those of you that have not met me before, maybe you’re meeting me for the first time.
Because you love Tracy and you’re here to listen to more of her. But health in my definition and as should be in everyone’s is multidimensional. And what I love about Tracy is she’s touching on so many different areas of your health, but it is five parts and it’s emotional, mental, physical, social, and spiritual.
So, What we’re really tapping into is helping you connect the dots and why I’m having her focus on the connection with weight loss is helping you see how the way that you feel, which translates to the way that you think behaves results in behavior, and that can actually affect your results, like weight loss.
Yeah. So that’s what we’re correlating here, and I’ll give it over to Tracy. So talk to me about step number one. Where are people starting in this? . Yeah, so I would say it starts with a decision that what you’re currently doing is not working. Mm-hmm. . And I think that for most people it takes too long.
There is so much unnecessary suffering happening because they’re not making a decision that what they are doing isn’t working. , anybody who’s listening right now and you feel like you are absolutely stuck and you’re suffering day in and day out, getting the exact same results, feeling the exact same way, thinking the exact same thoughts.
I want you to make a decision right now that what you’re doing is not working. You do not need to go on one more moment. Thinking, feeling, behaving, and getting these same results. So that’s where it starts. Mm-hmm. . And I wanna just also come alongside of you, and when you believe that you’ve just made a decision, notice how that belief makes you feel right there.
You have gained a glimmer of control. You made that decision. So now what? . We want to operate from a place of feeling control, not feeling out of control. Mm-hmm. And think about every other attempt to lose weight. You’ve probably gone into it feeling out of control. That feeling is going to lead to actions that are not gonna be sustainable.
Mm-hmm. , you might walk in to the neighborhood weight loss clinic and they’re gonna hand you a list. things to do and you are feeling out of control and you’re like, yep, I’m all in. Check, check, check, check, check. But if the feeling of out of control is driving those actions, those actions are not gonna be sustainable.
Mm-hmm. . So you might lose the weight, but I promise you, you’ll be right back to where you’re at. . Mm-hmm. , because it’s not sustainable. You have to be believing, you have to be operating from a place of control, like a place of self-control. Operating from the belief that I am managing my own mind, I’m equipped mm-hmm.
to keep generating this feeling of self-control. . Yeah. It’s a confidence issue really. Absolutely. It’s a confidence. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Feeling the confidence that I can sustain this, I will sustain this . Right. And you know, your human brain loves to look for evidence, so you are gonna be in this battle, but don’t forget about the 10 other failed attempts.
Right. And it’s so, it’s looking for all of this evidence because your primitive brain wants to be, Yeah. That basically leads to the second step. You make the decision and now you are in like that learning mode. You need to learn what got you to where you’re at. Mm-hmm. and most people are gonna think, oh, it’s overeating, it’s lack of control.
It’s those cookies or the wine or whatever that mm-hmm. , I just can’t say no to. , but it’s deeper than that. There’s a root cause. Yes, those are all symptoms, but the root cause is that you are believing that you’re broken, that this is just the way you’re meant to be. Mm-hmm. , that you are unable to achieve permanent weight loss.
Like that’s what we have to tackle. Like that’s the root cause and so, mm-hmm. , I teach neuroscience. Because it all goes right back to the three pounds that everybody should be worried about. It’s the organ, the brain that resides between your ears. That’s what you need to understand, that it’s comprised of two parts.
The primitive part that’s meant to keep you alive, that offers you narratives that are very fear-based. That’s it’s protective. It’s basically keeping, like you just said. Yeah. It’s a self-protective Yeah. But most people don’t know that . Yeah. Right. Right. They believe it. They believe all of those you should have, you shouldn’t have.
Right. All this part of your self-op operating system, like is this where you’re pulling people from the beginning, right? Yes. Mm-hmm. ? Yes. So the self-control operating system, the. Is on self . Yeah. Cause this is all within you. You just have never been taught this. That’s not your fault either. Like again, , that goes back to formal education, often western education, like it’s a void in our curriculum.
So I’m here, I’m gonna teach it to anybody who wants to learn it. And so, yes, the S of S E L F I, we emphasize the self. S is self. , it’s asking yourself high quality questions. It’s really better understanding what got you here. It’s a lack of knowledge. So I’m gonna start with the neuroscience, and that might sound complicated, but it’s actually pretty simple.
It makes perfect sense when you understand that you’ve just been. Believing those thoughts that have been offered to you by your primitive brain that’s trying to keep you safe in a not very dangerous environment, right? Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . And so it’s intention to keep you safe, actually ends up sabotaging you if you don’t know how to manage those thoughts to really like call ’em out for what they are.
Okay? I get it. You’re trying to keep me safe. I’m really not in any danger, so I’m not gonna believe that. I’m going to actually operate from thoughts that come from my prodigy brain. The other part of your brain, a lot of neuroscience scientists would call it your prefrontal cortex. That’s the part of your brain that operates with intention.
It actually, you can decide what it is that you wanna think and feel, but you gotta be operating from that part of your brain, not operating by the default primitive. . So how do you do that? You ask yourself questions, you’re able to question the thinking that you’re noticing. You have a heightened sense of awareness.
So there’s, there are steps within self-coaching that we teach. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . That really makes it quite simple. The E in S E L F is eliminating obstacle. So you’ve already touched on it. It’s like, if your goal is to lose weight, you’re probably gonna wanna eliminate, or at least limit the baked goods that sit on your counter, right.
All day, every day, you know? Mm-hmm. cause mm-hmm. , the primitive part of your brain is gonna be saying, you better eat that before it goes away. , right? Or before somebody else eats it or before it, and you guys apply whatever you want Here, I put weight loss in just because I’m giving something that she can correlate to.
But maybe you’re over drinking, maybe you’re drinking too much alcohol, which is also gonna correlate with weight loss. Maybe it’s a calendar issue. Maybe you are one of the people that cannot say no to. anything. And so your calendar is just to like whatever it is in excess in your life that is resulting in that negative sense of exhaustion and overwhelm.
Plug it in here. . Right, right. Whatever it’s, yeah. Yeah. I gotta point that out. . That’s such a good point. Yeah. The self-control operating system has unlimited applications, right? It works right under any circum. , I don’t care who you are, I don’t care how young or how old or what demographic, what your status is.
Yep. This is applicable to concepts, absolutely everything. So, so eliminate the obstacles, get rid of the extra drink, say no. Uh, yep. Exactly. Like those people that are really working on their overdrinking habits. Mm-hmm. , you know, one of the most obvious obstacles is the invitation to happy. . Right. And I can speak with a hundred percent authority on this because I was able to overcome years of overdrinking.
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. and. . I thought that just saying no to that invitation. Again, just notice how the judgemental part of my primitive brain shows up. They’re gonna think that there’s something wrong with me. They’re gonna think that I think I have a problem. They’re gonna think that, or I’m going to start believing that I don’t fit in anymore, or that there is something wrong with me if I.
Just decline those invitations. Mm-hmm. . But wouldn’t that be the obvious thing to do if you want to avoid over drinking? Right now, at this stage, your prodigy brain is not strong enough to. Like allow those thoughts, the intentional thoughts to drive behaviors. So we want to support what it is that you most want by eliminating some of the most obvious obstacles.
It doesn’t mean that you’ll never accept an invitation to happy hour. It means just right now while you’re working on strengthening your prodigy brain, we’re gonna eliminate some of the obvious obstacle. . Mm-hmm. . So I, the E. , the obstacles that you can see and the ones you can’t see. So the ones you can’t see are those saboteur narratives that are coming from your primitive brain.
So I teach, what do they sound like? What do they look like so that when they happen, you notice it? Mm-hmm. like you can’t fight the enemy. You can’t see. So I’m gonna teach you, there’s 10 saboteur narratives. The judge is the primary . He’s with you. all the time, but he has nine accomplices. And so I’m gonna teach you what they sound like, what they look like, and you will absolutely identify those quite quickly.
And they, quite honestly, they kind of attach themselves to your personal strengths. So for me, one of my saboteurs is the hyper achieve. and a lot of people would be like, oh, isn’t that nice? I’d love to have a saboteur. That’s a hyper achiever. Not really because yeah, tapped it kind of attached itself to that strength of like overachieving, like really always going after my goals.
That is a strength of mine, but when it’s overused and abused, it starts to get me results that I don’t like. I start attaching my self worth to. accomplishments. Yep. So when I don’t accomplish things, and I’m just gonna kind of go back to that, that example of the people that we sometimes admire that are in the spotlight, this is it.
they are these hypey, they’re operating from those hyper achiever narratives where they think that their self-worth is directly connected to their achievements. Mm-hmm. . And if they don’t hit the mark, now they’re all of a sudden unworthy. And they don’t know how to handle that. They don’t know how to cope with that.
So it’s a, it’s a self expectation then. I mean, I think it’s why so many people have these mental breakdowns when they experience so much success. Exactly. is now suddenly you have this exposure to potentially thousands or millions of people who are following you and have fall in love with you because you’ve achieved something.
Because there’s something, whether it be your first record label or your first movie, or your first program of success that’s changed thousands of whatever lives now, suddenly you are here and there’s this self expectation that now I have to stay here or I have to do something. Now I have to raise the bar even higher.
And so it’s a sense of grace. It’s like you see somebody from afar and you see this quote unquote success, and it’s hard to imagine that, you know what, they’re just human . Right? The base struggles are the exact same as mine. It’s just now their struggles are on a platform for millions of people, thousands of people, right?
Right. To see. So I absolutely, yeah. See tapping into everyone’s strengths will ultimately become, your enemy And weakness too. Yep. If you don’t manage your mind right. And so that leads to the L, the S E L F. The L is leveraging your prodigy brain strengths. So understanding that you do have those two parts of your brain.
By default, we’re gonna operate from our primitive brain. You do have inherent strengths that can be accessed through your prodigy brain. They look like empathy. to your point. Mm-hmm. , they look like discovery. Really like looking at this circumstance, looking at your thoughts, looking at your feelings kind of through the lens or through that 10,000 foot view.
How else could I look at this circumstance? What else might be going on? Because you’re operating from your tive brain, you’re very laser focused. You are. in Locke with the belief that it’s the truth and it’s a lie 99% of the time. What your permanent brain is offering you is a lie. It’s very fear-based and it has you reacting.
So that strength of discovery allows you to like really kind of. Look through this lens about like what else might be going on. Innovate is another strength that you can access through your prodigy brain, like coming up with new ways of thinking, new ways of behaving. It’s really like instead of being really black and white, like what is the third option here?
navigate that strength allows you to tap into your values. It has you making decisions, taking those next best steps through what it is that you value most. Mm-hmm. . And then activate is that fifth strength that you can access through your prodigy brain. And that brings up kind of that ninja like warrior, that Jedi.
They’re very concise, they’re very calm, they’re very convicted in what it is that they believe, and they take immediate action. Mm-hmm. . So those five strengths are within all of us. You just have to understand how to tap into them. So leveraging your prodigy brain strengths is the L of self. And then finally, forging intentional results.
If you aren’t forging intentional results, then you are running on. Fault. You’re running on autopilot and you’re creating results that you know are just kind of left to chance. Mm-hmm. . And in retrospect, you might be like, eh, that was pretty good. or it could be disastrous. And so if you’ve got goals like weight loss goals, you wanna be forging intentional results.
And so we teach people how to shift from the primitive to the prog brain. Like what kind of supports are there that you can lean into that help you access those strengths? And so, and those just look like mindfulness techniques. A lot of us. Know of them, but we don’t actually practice them. Yeah. And when you’re being intentional, like you’re actually planning so that you show up and you do and you do imperfectly mm-hmm.
like you don’t allow the primitive brain to say, don’t start this because you don’t know how to do it perfectly. Mm-hmm. like, oh, no, no, no. We embrace it, we do it knowing that it’s gonna be imperfect because we are a human. Right. Yeah. Amen. How does your mind math concept fit into this self-control development?
Yeah, so that is a tool that I teach my clients how to use when they’re self-coaching. So the s the. Gotcha. The essence itself okay, is self-coaching. And I offer a tool that really brings to light what it is that you’re thinking from your primitive brain. Mm. And how to think to create kind of a playbook to try to create like the steps, the best practices to getting what you want by operating from your prodigy brain.
So it’s very visual, like thoughts and feelings we can’t see. . Yeah, so they feel very chaotic. It feels very overwhelming. So the mind math is literally, it’s a math formula that really brings it to light so that you can clearly see. What I’m thinking is making me feel this, that has me reacting in this way, creating this result.
And then you can’t argue it like again, our brain wants evidence. Here you go. This is the evidence. This is literally your lived experience. So that’s how I retain my clients for as long as I do because the proof is like right there. There’s no denying it. When you have it on paper and you see it in black and white, oh my god.
This is why I’ve never been able to lose weight because I’ve been operating from this thought that’s been making me feel this way. It’s a mind blowing like experience. Mm-hmm. . And then we use the exact same formula. We use the exact same circumstance, but we decide how we’re gonna think and feel to get the result that we.
So that’s a tool. It’s like the million dollar tool that a lot of my clients can do it just like in the moment they don’t have to sit down. Right. Cuz they practice. Write it out. Yeah. Yeah. And so yeah, practicing, you know, any sort of, Change requires. Do you offer that tool? I’m trying to remember. I do.
It’s on the website. Totally free. Yep. Yeah, I thought so. So we’re gonna make sure that that is included in the show notes. It is her mind math formula, and all you have to do is just put your email in and she will send that to you. And then, so somebody’s getting this. This formula, when do you recommend they do it?
Like is there a moment when they’re maybe having one of those thoughts or one of those feelings around whatever goal, whatever excess you’re trying to create more control in your life? Yeah. Like when is the best time to get that out and be like, okay, I’m doing this right now. Yeah, . Well, I would say once you really recognize.
What’s driving your results? Yeah. It becomes very like addictive. Like I get kind of obsessed with it. I could sit here and do mind math all day long and saying that is huge because I was a horrible math student, . But there’s moments where it literally drops me to my knees when I recognize how much of my life I’ve been operating from a thought that did not serve me.
It’s just, just give me, if you’re able to do this on, I’m putting her on the spot here. Go through mine. With an example of like a client that we don’t name or whatever, when it comes to weight loss, just for example, like give me an example of the mind math. Yeah. Formula. Yeah. So I had a client yesterday who, she’s been with me for a couple years and she actually hit her goal weight and she has maintained it, but that doesn’t mean that she’s sliding down rainbow.
all day, every day now. Mm-hmm. , she still has a primitive brain and so it’s so important that this becomes part of our daily practice. Mm-hmm. so that you stay aware of when these thoughts, like he’s trying to sabotage me, was her thought her husband would bring home her favorite meal from their takeout local restaurant.
he would bring it home kind of late. She was already making like intentional plans about what she was going to eat Mm. During the day. And then he would come in and bring her her favorite meal and he, her thought was, he’s trying to sabotage me, which made her feel frustrated. Mm. Which then had her. Like shutting down, she would stop communicating with him.
She would beat herself up with more negative self-talk that looked like, you should be further than this. You should know better. You shouldn’t be feeling this urge to eat that. . Mm-hmm. , which just like starts to compound the suffering. Ultimately she eats it and then she goes to bed beating herself up, using that as evidence that she’s broken.
Mm-hmm. . Right? So ultimately she’s sabotaging herself. Mm-hmm. that thought, he’s trying to sabotage me, becomes. Her result, but it’s ultimately her primitive brain is sabotaging her because she’s just not managing it. But good news, . Yeah, she showed up for the call. So good for her. Good for you. Wherever you are.
Well done. Well done. One day at time. We clear? Yeah. We could clearly see we are not broken. Nothing. So what’s the first part of the mind math? Like what’s the very first thing that somebody’s writing? Yeah. So I usually just try to get the circumstance, like right circumstances. So the self-control operating system is interesting because I think I really do capture people when I say, I can teach you how to create self-control.
Yeah. Especially for those people who are like really grippy and they love to control things. Mm-hmm. , right? They’re like, all right, I’m all in. Well, you stopped trying to control circumstances. Other people, right. Events, things. People say you stop controlling those things because they’re outside of your control.
Mm-hmm. , you’re never gonna co control another person or what they say or what they think. Right. You can control what you think and feel about that circumstance and it changes everything. . Now you are experiencing self-control, which drives completely different behaviors than if you’re operating from a thought that they should not be saying that he should not be bringing that home.
Mm-hmm. . Does that make sense? So it all starts with the circumstance. The circumstance, yeah. Because I want, mm-hmm. , I want clients to be very specific because this is a math formula. and it will, the, the more specific you are, the harder it’s gonna work for you. Mm-hmm. , the result is going to be way more powerful for you.
So I want a very specific circumstance, and we’re gonna work on the Prodigy Mind math, using that exact same circumstance because I don’t teach people how to change or how to control circumstances because I. . Those are outside of our control. Right. Those could look like a medical diagnosis that can look like the dollar amount in your bank account today.
That can look like the number on the scale today. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . Whatever’s revealed to you just is Right? Right. It’s a fact. It exists. We cannot control that, but we can control how we think about that circumstance. Mm-hmm. . So where does it start being really clear about what, what it is we’re working on because mm-hmm.
we have 60,000 plus thoughts a day, . Mm-hmm. . So you could be doing 60,000 of these formulas a day, but most people will be thinking about the mind math when they recognize that they’re actually feeling something unwanted. Like frustration, overwhelm. Yeah. Yeah. Like an uncomfortable emotion of some sort is when you’re probably gonna tap into this.
Okay. Why? Feeling this? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. That’s where it’s, you know, the power is really brought forward, but I often, I’ll have my clients do it when they’re feeling like top of the world because Yeah. You know, they’re in a different like, yeah. It’s like a reverse psychology. Okay, now what did I do that’s resulting in.
this feeling. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . Yeah. Yeah. So it really is math. It’s, you can’t deny that this is your experience. I happen to be a very visual learner. Mm-hmm. . So that’s why I’ve chosen to go this route with teaching these concepts. There’s a lot of other ways. There’s so many amazing, you know, clinical psychology.
and cognitive behavioral therapy and a lot of other coaches that have great techniques out there. This just happens to be the technique that has worked for me and hundreds of my clients that I get a lot of traction from. Yeah. And so this is the way I like to teach it, but mm-hmm. , very visual, very simplified.
We take that exact same circumstance of the husband bringing home her favorite meal, and we pop that into. The circumstance line of the mind math formula. And then I would ask her, how do you wanna feel about that? Hmm. How do you wanna feel about that? And she’s like, I wanna feel indifferent, or I wanna feel grateful.
And she’s like, I can’t even imagine feeling that way because he’s, he does this to me all the time, you know? So again, right there, she’s, it’s the primitive brain. It’s the judge offering her a lot of thoughts. And it’s like, okay, so if you wanna feel in control, indifferent, neutral, about. , what would you have to be thinking?
And now we’ve slown this whole process down and it’s got her thinking in a different way. Maybe he has no idea of the struggle that she goes through when he brings that home. Maybe he just wants to do something nice for her. Right? There’s so many possibilities. But when she’s so laser focused, operating from her tive brain, she won’t see it.
Mm-hmm. . And once she starts to feel calm because she’s believing. another option. She’s tapped into that prodigy brain. Now her actions look entirely different. She’s very likely to put that meal in the fridge and eat it tomorrow and be super grateful that it’s there tomorrow and she goes to bed, patting herself on the back.
Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. feeling totally different. I love that. Share with people, one, where they can find you, and then two, the different things that you offer, you know, within your model. for people interested in how you’re applying this for your clients? Yes. Okay, so go to www dot Self Made u, just the letter u.com and we have all sorts of free resources.
March 15th, we have a program, it’s called Mind Over. and is going to really take you step by step mm-hmm. Through the self-control operating system. So by downloading one of our other offers, you’ll get onto our mailing list and you can sign up for that program down the road. But we offer programs called Change Your Mind Programs, and they’re very specific to problems that I think a lot.
Americans deal with like overeating, overdrinking. I have a lot of international clients as well, but it’s so interesting how our culture operates and so I obviously, being domestic, I have a lot of. Programming that really focuses on the problems that I’ve experienced and the goals that I’ve achieved. So I feel like the expert in that.
So I’ve developed programming. Yeah, so these change Your Mind programs are 10 week programs that really take a deep dive and they very specifically apply. The self-control operating system to that problem or goal. So we’ve got one on habits, we’ve got one on relationships. We’ve got mind and body, which is, ends in a lot of weight loss.
Mm-hmm. and metabolic fitness, entrepreneurship, professional growth. I work with a lot of teams and a lot of executives as well. So performance at the, both the personal and professional level. That’s amazing. You definitely wanna go check that out. Of course, the link will be on the show notes. And Tracy, I, it’s so fun.
I love what you’re doing and I just pray God’s blessing over your heart, your home, your business, everything you’re doing, you’re changing lives. It’s awesome and it’s a blessing to have you here. Thank you. Thank you so much. It’s been a pleasure. Thanks for listening to this episode of the Imperfectly Empowered Podcast.
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